It is important to chat with your kids about what their plans and goals are for the next year, just like adults do. These conversation starters for kids will not only get your kids talking to you, but will give you a deeper understanding of their hopes and dreams.
Happy New Year! Ahh, a fresh start. New year, new you. You have already set goals to improve your personal health and wellness. Have your kids done the same? Spend time with your children planning for the upcoming year. Encourage them to think about what kind of outcomes and changes they would like to see in themselves and their lives. They will learn about setting and achieving goals, and you will gain a deeper understanding your child.
Check out our informal conversation starters for kids. Use them in the new year or any time you need to better know what is in your child’s heart.
1. What is one thing you want to do this year?
It is important to know your child’s hope and dreams. Maybe your kid has really wanted to do something this year but it never occurred to them to ask. It could be anything — playing baseball, swimming in a local lake, or visiting a special place in town, like the zoo, a science center, or an art museum. Asking this question can inspire your kid to confide in you. Your son has been dreaming of becoming an artist? Great! Go get the paints. Your daughter secretly wants to be a rock star? Start piano lessons right away. You learn that you’re raising an aspiring veterinarian? Maybe there are volunteer opportunities at the local animal shelter. You won’t regret simply asking.
2. What is one nice thing you want to do for others this year?
Giving and serving others is an important part of growing up. It is best to be intentional about it and make a plan so that your children can think about what they want to do. If your kid is having a hard time answering this question, here are some great ways to give back to your community. Action is one of the most impactful ways to teach the effects of kindness. Even participating in just one giving activity can ignite a love of service in your child.
3. How can mom and dad love you better?
Yikes, have the tissues ready! Every kid feels loved and valued in their own special way and most likely you have a sense of how best to convey your special love for your children. But what if they say something that will surprise you? How do you think your relationship could change if you ask them this every year for their whole childhood? You’ll be giving yourself and your child a true gift when your raise them to be aware of their own love language.
4. What do you want to learn?
Your kid may give you a simple answer to this question, or perhaps they will blow you away! Either way, asking this question is just one way to gain some insight into your children’s true passions. Maybe they will say they want to learn how to ride a horse, how to knit, or even how to solve a geometry question with the Pythagorean Theorem! You will be surprised about what goes through your kids’ brains but never comes out of their mouths.
5. Let’s say you could wave a magic wand. What would your adventure be?
Once you know your kid’s dream adventure, you can recreate it — even if you are only visiting a “far off land” in your living room. You can create experiences or “travel” using tools like Google Earth and other interactive tech experiences. If they’re not interested in exploring a virtual world on the computer, encourage them to write a story or draw a picture. Act out a play. Get crazy! You’ll be amazed when you learn about the worlds contained in your child’s imagination.
6. Tell me something that makes you laugh.
Get your phone’s camera out for this one. The answers you get might put you both in stitches.
Our conversation starters for kids are just one place to start when it comes to connecting to your children.